Things you learn working at an adult toy store:
People are sexually repressed, and terrified of their own bodies. I absolutely understand this from my own past, and find some comfort knowing that I can take a really complicated subject and make it accessible to those struggling to find their sexual identity. However, there needs to be more sex education in this country. I can’t help but feel sad for the hundreds of women I’ve had to convince they are allowed to feel pleasure, and the tons of men I’ve had to educate on anal stimulation and prostate health — and how it doesn’t turn you gay. These are legitimate fears/insecurities I hear every single day that have been hammered into people’s brains. My favorite is the one about how if a female can put something big inside of her she is a slut, or loose, or has been fucking by many people. Or females who have been told this asking for creams that will shrink/tighten their vaginas.
[Before I continue, I'm going to explain a few things. 1. The walls of the vagina are anatomically designed to be somewhat elastic. You're not stretching anything. Also, let's also keep in mind the vagina is equipped to push out a baby. Of course, not everyone with a vagina self-identifies with giving birth or even has the ability to carry a child, but the vagina can expand (with lube and foreplay). Also, as a female bodied person stands up the walls of the vagina are touching. Those 'loose' rumors are incredibly false. Oh and those creams are meant to dehydrate you giving you the illusion of being 'tighter' when in fact it's causing you more problems than it's worth (dryness, irritation, bacterial infection, yeast infection). Okay, I'm done. Continue on...]
This is what I think is going on. I could totally be wrong, but this is what I’ve come to understand:
People are focusing too much on the morality aspect of sex and how it is defying god’s law to have it for more than procreation. So let’s not teach people about sex or sexual health because then they will get the idea stuck in their head and will want to engage in it outside of marriage and/or for pleasure. So rich, god-fearing politicians stand in front of podiums and submit bills to cut off funding for sex education and to places that provide contraception because that way they will cut off all thoughts people might have about their bodies.
Let’s look at the key words here [thoughts, their, ideas,bodies, health]. I will say this: if god gave us anything, he/she/they gave us free will and the ability for us to form our own opinions. I have the right to disregard the sex/morality guilt. I even have the right to spell god in all lower case letters. I have ideas and those ideas are different from your ideas.
Here is the plan. Fund sex education and contraception. Do it for two years and look at the results. I bet you will see a greater good that comes from it instead of looking at it as ‘god is going to get mad,’ ‘women are going to be sluts,’ ‘morality is going to go our the window’ way. Look at it as a way for people to think. The best part, we all have the ability to disregard the information — and that should be an individual choice.
p.s. I wrote this on the G train about an hour ago.